Mention Thailand to people and chances are in addition to mentioning the beautiful beaches they will also drop in a few words on lady-boys too. Over the years it has certainly featured in many a bar conversation, you must have heard them ‘Would you?’, ‘Have you?’ and ‘Is it Gay to go with a lady-boy’ type debate. So I wanted to put the questions to a poll and 300 replies later I have some interesting data.

38% have had a sexual encounter with a lady-boy

Did this figure surprise me? Well it should have done but it didn’t. I shared the stats in my office and my foreign sales guy said “Yes, I fall into that category too”.

80% of all respondents said they found lady-boys attractive, so is it that unrealistic not to expect a big slug of that group not to have had a sexual encounter with them. I guess I should have put a filter into what this encounter actually constituted, but still, at very least some slap and tickle did take place.

Further more, 16% who said they had not had a sexual experience also said they did not rule out the chance were it to present itself. So the flat out ‘No – and never will’ turned out to be the minority group. 53% of the respondents had either had a sexual experience or would not rule out one in the future with a lady-boy.

It is a Good Outcome?

I am actually rather pleased with the figure, it shows those that have come to Thailand as a tourist or expat have become a bit more liberated in their views and are willing to try out new things. Let’s face it our counterparts back home would not vote this way, or at least I am guessing they wouldn’t.

Personally, although for the record I have not had an encounter, I see nothing wrong with others who have. Who cares what turns you on? Unless you are still tied up in some religious ‘Adam and Eve’ type, increasingly dated mindset – there is no rule to say what is right and wrong when it comes to this the subject of the third gender.

I had a long term expat friend who used the analogy of the ‘seven year itch’ used more commonly in relationships. He suggested once you have spent 7 years in Thailand all taboos are broken and you are very likely to try a transgender. Another long term expat I know used to say ‘It is gay not to go with a lady-boy’, not sure his logic there but amusing nonetheless.

So let me conclude by saying the Thai lady-boy is not only frequent conversation for foreigners but also a little bit more too…


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